Tuesday, October 17, 2006

Just when I think I'm doing okay...

Well, God points out that I have a way to go. :-)

At Mass tonight,during the homily, I am reminded that it is what is inside that counts - we must not focus only on our outward appearance. And I just had my hair cut and coloured today!


Then, in finding good quotes for a friend, good quotes relating to parenting and to unschooling, I look in my folder and am struck by the following -

"As far as possible avoid punishing . . . . try to gain love before inspiring fear." St John Bosco


Do I remember to love ? Or am I sometimes cross or distracted when with my children?

I travel to an internet homeschool message board. What do I read?

St. Alphonsus de Liguori and 50 Maxims for Attaining Perfection.

( Read below).

Well, I am not even close to perfection. But its a lifelong adventure, right?

1. To desire ardently to increase in the love of Jesus Christ. 2. Often to make acts of love towards Jesus Christ. Immediately on waking, and before going to sleep, to make an act of love.; seeking always to unite your own will to the will of Jesus Christ. 3. Often to meditate on his Passion. 4. Always to ask Jesus Christ for his love. 5. To communicate often, and many times in the day to make spiritual Communions. 6. Often to visit the Most Holy Sacrament. 7. Every morning to receive from the hands of Jesus Christ himself your own cross. 8. To desire Paradise and death, in order to be able to love Jesus Christ perfectly and for all eternity. 9. Often to speak of the love of Jesus Christ. 10. To accept contradictions for the sake of Jesus Christ. 11. To rejoice in the happiness of God. 12. To do that which is most pleasing to Jesus Christ, and not to refuse him anything that is agreeable to him. 13. To desire and to endeavor that all should love Jesus Christ. 14. To pray always for sinners and for the souls in purgatory. 15. To drive from your heart every affection that does not belong to Jesus Christ. 16. Always to have recourse to the most holy Mary, that she may obtain for us the love of Jesus Christ. 17. To honor Mary in order to please Jesus Christ. 18. To seek to please Jesus Christ in all your actions, 19. To offer yourself to Jesus Christ to suffer any pain for his love. 20 To be always determined to die rather than commit a willful venial sin. 27. To suffer crosses patiently, saying, "Thus it pleases Jesus Christ." 22. To renounce your own pleasures for the love of Jesus Christ. 23. To pray as much as possible. 24. To practice all the mortifications that obedience permits. 25. To do all your spiritual exercises as if it were for the last time. 26. To persevere in good works in the time of aridity. 27. Not to do nor yet to leave undone anything through human respect. 28. Not to complain in sickness. 29. To love solitude, to be able to converse alone with Jesus Christ. 30. To drive away melancholy [i.e. gloom]. 37. Often to recommend yourself to those persons who love Jesus Christ. 32. In temptation, to have recourse to Jesus crucified, and to Mary in her sorrows. 33. To trust entirely in the Passion of Jesus Christ. 34. After committing a fault, not to be discouraged, but to repent and resolve to amend. 35. To do good to those who do evil. 36. To speak well of all, and to excuse the intention when you cannot defend the action. 37. To help your neighbor as much as you can. 38. Neither to say nor to do anything that might vex him. And if you have been wanting in charity, to ask his pardon and speak kindly to him. 39. Always to speak with mildness and in a low tone. 40. To offer to Jesus Christ all the contempt and persecution that you meet with. 41. To look upon [religious] Superiors as the representatives of Jesus Christ. 42. To obey without answering and without repugnance, and not to seek your own satisfaction in anything. 43. To like the lowest employment. 44. To like the poorest things. 45. Not to speak either good or evil of yourself. 46. To humble yourself even towards inferiors. 47. Not to excuse yourself when you are reproved. 48. Not to defend yourself when found fault with. 49. To be silent when you are disquieted [i.e. upset]. 50. Always to renew your determination of becoming a saint, saying, "My Jesus, I desire to be all Yours, and You must be all mine."


Anonymous said...

Ah... Leonie... we are on this journey together.

Take heart! God loves us and is with us every step! I know this is so comforting for me.

And I find.. that just when I think I have it 'together' then WHAM! God is good. :)

Thanks for the post (and the quotes) ;)

Leonie said...

Thanks for the comment Cindy - like the Stones sing - you can't always get what you want but you just might find you get what you need!

I got what I needed. :-)

Anonymous said...

Hi Leonie.......I bet your hair looks great though!
I think that our hearts (or insides) are MOST important to God. My husband wants BOTH! the inner beauty and the outside beauty too :-) I was impacted by a book I read a few years back http://www.parable.com/cbn/item_0800717880.htm called His Needs Her Needs.......Building an affair proof marriage. It really showed me how my husband sees things. It also helped me see him in a different light! Highly recomended.
Keep up the good work. It isn't easy being perfect LOL

Leonie said...

And I can't get to perfection! lol!

Too true - my dh likes my new hair - thinks its cute. So, gotta please someone.:-)

Beate said...

hmm...I just colored my hair this week! The way I figure it, as a mom of more than the norm ;-) I have to be an ambassador for bigger families - can't have people thinking children give you gray hair ;-) Instead, they should be thinking, having dc sure keeps you young! So dear friend, people look at you and say - wow, she looks great - AND she has SEVEN children LOLOL

Leonie said...

Oh, Beate, I'm with you!

Now will anyone ever say that about me? lol! In my dreams. :-)

Fr. Benedict M. said...

Thanks for the St. Alphonsus maxims, I particularly like #41... the most difficult for me!

Leonie said...

I guess I can understand, Fr.;-)

But for me practically all the maxims are difficult.

Working on it , though.