Thursday, January 10, 2008

Men!


Warning - a ranting blog post below..


Men.


You gotta love them, but gosh ~ take it from me, as the only female in an otherwise male dominated household - men can be frustrating.

And some of my men friends and the men I work with are no better.

Aargh. If only they weren't so touchy , so grumpy, so anti -advice. :-)

This article, They Just Can't Help It, describes some differences in brains. You cannot determine a person's brain type by sex; however, it emerges that, on average, more women have "intuitive" brains and more men have "systemising" brains. From the article:

The evidence for a female advantage in empathising comes from many different directions. For example, studies show that when children play together with a little movie player that has only one eye-piece, boys tend to get more of their fair share of looking down the eye piece. They just shoulder the girls out of the way. Less empathy, more self-centred. Or if you leave out a bunch of those big plastic cars that kids can ride on, what you see is that more little boys play the "ramming" game. They deliberately drive the vehicle into another child. The little girls ride around more carefully, avoiding the other children more often. This suggests the girls are being more sensitive to others.

Baby girls, as young as 12 months old, respond more empathically to the distress of other people, showing greater concern through more sad looks, sympathetic vocalisations and comforting. This echoes what you find in adulthood: more women report frequently sharing the emotional distress of their friends. Women also spend more time comforting people.

When asked to judge when someone might have said something potentially hurtful, girls score higher from at least seven years old. Women are also more sensitive to facial expressions. They are better at decoding non-verbal communication, picking up subtle nuances from tone of voice or facial expression, or judging a person's character.

Makes sense to me. I am often the one who smoothes the troubled waters, who picks up nuances and responds accordingly, who may be the mediator, the first to apologise - yes, even when I am not necessarily in the wrong, but I know someone has to take the first step.... And this someone is rarely male!

I love the men in my life ~ my dh, my sons , their friends, my male friends..I enjoy being with my male work colleagues. But , sometimes, I yearn just for a woman only conversation!

Men. You gotta love them, you gotta live and work with them but give me a break, occasionally. :-)

The Catechism of the Catholic Church has this to say about male and female dfferences~

2333 Everyone, man and woman, should acknowledge and accept his sexual identity. Physical, moral, and spiritual difference and complementarity are oriented toward the goods of marriage and the flourishing of family life. The harmony of the couple and of society depends in part on the way in which the complementarity, needs, and mutual support between the sexes are lived out.

2334 "In creating men 'male and female,' God gives man and woman an equal personal dignity."118 "Man is a person, man and woman equally so, since both were created in the image and likeness of the personal God."119

2335 Each of the two sexes is an image of the power and tenderness of God, with equal dignity though in a different way.

I really like that last line ~ both sexes being "an image of the power and tenderness of God."


Thanks for letting me rant - hey, thats what blogs are for , right?

6 comments:

paminoz said...

Hmm

A certain special male and I can never agree about what I perceive as hurtful actions etc

I don't suppose that reading that paragraph very loudly would a) be loving and b) get the point across?

Pam

Leonie said...

Probably not, Pam! Bt its temptig, is it not? lol! I must admit that I thought of you - until your two litle newest blessings came, you also lived in a mostly male household for a long time. :-)

Anonymous said...

seems this rant is not coincidental! Fr B.

Leonie said...

:-) Fr - think I just need some time out....

Anonymous said...

Looks like us girls have to stick together Leonie :P

Kristine

Leonie said...

Yep, definitely, Kristine!