Sunday, July 19, 2009


Housework done incorrectly still blesses your family Flylady

I guess it does. I am a pretty imperfect housewife but we get along okay. I think.

But does this hold true for other areas of my life?

Homeschooling done imperfectly still blesses the family? Parenting ? Being a wife? A friend?

I don't know. But I do know that suffering from perfection paralysis can be a hindrance.

It is okay to make mistakes as a parent, as a homeschooling mum, as a wife. As long as I learn from these mistakes, get over the emotional guilt and nudge ahead, fixing up my messes as I go..

And as long as I don't think I ever have-it-made. I don't. I am a continual learner. My life as a mother and wife is a little like my weight loss and weight maintenance life cycle - two steps forward, one step back.

Why am I reflecting on imperfection? For two reasons.

One, on glancing at The Imperfect Homeschoolers' Guide to Homeschooling. No, not a book I want to read. I am over self help books, especially those on homeschooling and even those written with imperfection in mind. My current reading, my current books are spiritual, faith inspired. And Harry Potter!

The title , the book's premise, prompted my thoughts on life in spite of, and with, and by slowly overcoming, imperfections.

The other reason for my imperfection meander is really because of my imperfections. Time spent worrying and praying over faults and the consequences. Over things said and unsaid, in Confession and out of the confessional.

What did St Augustine say? This is the very perfection of a man, to find out his own imperfections.

Or Dumbledore, in Harry Potter and the Half Blood Prince ~ I make mistakes like the next man. In fact, being — forgive me — rather cleverer than most men, my mistakes tend to be correspondingly huger.

I am not more cleverer but I make my mistakes, I will probably always be imperfect, striving for perfection with the grace of God. And, for the most part, we all move along okay.

It's character building, you know. It's very character-building stuff, learning to peel sprouts without magic, makes you appreciate how difficult it is for Muggles and Squibs. - Mr. Weasley to Ron in the above Harry Potter book.


Ladybug Mommy Maria said...

G.K. Chesterton once said, "Anything worth doing is worth doing badly."

I am very comforted by that because at least I try!

Much love to you!

Leonie said...

Yes, that is a great quote! Trust Chesterton to say it succintly.

Anonymous said...

Yes, I have been beating myself up over not doing some things for the Newman Association perfectly.

And then I remembered Flylady and applied it to this work:

"Publicity done imperfectly will still bless the Newman Association."

Very helpful!

Leonie said...

Very good adaptation of the quote, Louise!