tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15130664.post7996649237875775362..comments2023-11-05T18:54:25.824+11:00Comments on Living Without School: On DisciplineLeoniehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/11596513344737230084noreply@blogger.comBlogger4125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15130664.post-57956747418351585292009-04-06T21:21:00.000+10:002009-04-06T21:21:00.000+10:00It was very hard on me as a child to have perfect ...It was very hard on me as a child to have perfect parents. They were very reasonable and never yelled, and somehow, I was always wrong, and my character was at fault, and they were always beyond reproach...<BR/><BR/>So I let my children see my not-so-good side. When I yell and have temper tantrums, I apologize, and we do yet more conflict resolution, and the same thing happens when the children tantrum. We all know that we are all human, and we have multiple chances to grow and change. Mind you, I can be philosophical about this now. It's not always so easy in the middle of conflict, especially because I am a lifelong avoider of conflict.<BR/><BR/>If you can, get hold of a book called 'Kids are Worth It' by Barabara Coloroso. It is one of the few parenting books I know of that presents a clear plan for parenting teenagers, based on the 'do as you would be done by' rule. Coloroso was a Franciscan nun before becoming a psychologist, then wife and mother of three. Some pretty powerful credentials!Johttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17803297366197086152noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15130664.post-48330050322074295522009-04-04T06:55:00.000+11:002009-04-04T06:55:00.000+11:00Thank you both for being honest and letting me kno...Thank you both for being honest and letting me know I am not the only one who struggles with this..praying, receiving forgiveness helps...going to Reconciliation is an added grace...sticking to consequences is hard but I'm getting there.Leoniehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11596513344737230084noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15130664.post-1466892998818761852009-04-04T02:40:00.000+11:002009-04-04T02:40:00.000+11:00I feel this. I have an awful temper and a tongue l...I feel this. I have an awful temper and a tongue like a razor. I've hurt my son often with it. I didn't know I HAD this temper until I adopted him. Therapy, prayer, and time still have not totally tamed it. And, I too, hate it when he does it "my way" when he's angry. It's ugly. I don't like me in him. I'm not Catholic, so I do pray for and receive forgiveness. The hard part is forgiving MYSELF. I'm praying for you and your boys.Hopewellhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02510172065585770709noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15130664.post-14739803358965665352009-04-03T03:00:00.000+11:002009-04-03T03:00:00.000+11:00Similar things happening here too, including the s...Similar things happening here too, including the swearing - on my part - and the need to go to confession.<BR/><BR/>One thing I've been trying to convey is the idea that the child has made the choice and so the consequence follows...I think has worked for my "moaning wonder" and has taught her that we have to work as a team and not just on whim - when she wants something!<BR/><BR/>Hugs, my friend! Pray for us!Ladybug Mommy Mariahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11872071153849471720noreply@blogger.com